If I could give you a little bit of magic potion that would give you the weight loss you desire,
I would.
In an instant!
And you know there are a lot of people out there who profess to do exactly that.
But I hate to burst your bubble, magic pills and potions, don’t work. Yes, I admit in the short term they may have an effect, but long term…non!
If you want to drop the pounds and kilos permanently then there are many steps that you need to take. Like the Pantene Shampoo TV commercial once said… ‘it won’t happen overnight but it will happen.’
Before I delve deeply into the first and most important step, let me declare here and now….
The 3 requirements for change are:
1 You need to realise that it is a PROBLEM TO YOU
2 You need to realise that it can be DIFFERENT FOR YOU
3 You need to realise that it’s UP TO YOU TO MAKE IT DIFFERENT.
So I can give you all the strategies and tools that you need, but when it comes to actually implementing them into your daily life, it is up to you, no one else, just you.
So are you ready to make that change?
Yes?
O.K.
Drum roll…..
The no. 1 step is…
Get Your Head in the Right Place.
Surprised…?
I cannot stress how important this is and sorry to be the bearer of bad news but without it, permanenet weight loss will elude you.
So many of my clients when meeting with me for the first time explain how they know exactly what they should be doing – what they should be eating and how much exercise they need to do – but they just can’t do it.
They don’t have the motivation, they have no energy, they hestitantly admit their self-esteem is often low. They don’t particularly like themselves, how they look and how they feel.
Not a fabulous place from which to launch yourself into yet another diet.
That’s why you need to accept that diets don’t work, and in fact you’re not on a diet.
Say it now ..out loud… I don’t do diets!
How good did that feel?
I hope it felt fab.
I know once I came to this conclusion some time ago, that I did feel a weight lift off my shoulders (excuse my very bad pun!).
It’s like you’re taking the pressure off, no longer is there this feeling of restriction or deprivation.
Diets in my mind, immediately impose these shackles of restriction and deprivation and thinking about food ALL the time… why would you do that to yourself?
Unshackle yourself once and for all.
So you’re free.
Free to be happy, look, feel and be amazing.
You don’t do diets any more so what are you going to do?
Why not now, right now, make this committment to yourself…
‘I am being the healthiest version of me!’
I know you’re saying.. Caroline, I’m not feeling that way, but hear me out.
You need to start to act this way from this very moment. If you say ‘try’ your subconcious mind will do just that, only ‘try’. If you say but I’m fat or I’m overweight, your subconcious mind is your friend, it will happily keep you fat and overweight because that is what you keep telling it.
Do you understand now why you need to say “I am being the healhtiest version of me” or whatever similar postive words work for you.
You are changing the way you eat and how you move your body …permanently.
This way forward is your new norm.
Getting your head in the right place particularly when you’ve been giving yourself a hard time for a long time is not always easy ..but the good news, it can be done.
If you have access to a good coach then I certainly recommend one. I can vouch that the change you can achieve when working with a coach can be swift and effective.
If you don’t have access then there are techniques that you can begin with it at home.
Firstly you need to understand that what most occupies your mind, whether consciously or unconsciously, tends to turn into your reality and hence your behaviour.
If you continue to allow the negative monkey mind chatter dominate your mind space then it’s more that likely you will stay stuck in a negative place.
Instead when you find yourself thinking negative thoughts…
- Stop.
- Take a deep, slow belly breath.
- Create some space in your head, imagine yourself standing back, outside of your mind and your thoughts.
- Then reframe. Reframe those thoughts to something positive about you or the situation.
For every negative thought there is a postive one, you just have to look for it.
Imagine a spot of light in front of your negativity, go to that light, go forward and there you’ll find a positive thought to replace it. Change topics in your head if you must, but just change it from the negative to the positive.
We now know that the thoughts we think in our mind set our emotional state, and the emotional state sets off a physiological response in our body.
Negative thoughts … negative response
Positive thoughts … positive response.
You can do this.
Obviously you need to be more mindful of what you’re saying to yourself but just go through each step, slowly and make the change.
Even if in the beginning you just stop the negative thought from going any further, then you’re one step closer to where you want to be!
As I mentioned earlier, this takes practice and action.
Some positive belief choices for you to accept as part of the new you…the healthier, happier and more amazing you.
1) Remember change can be fast and easy.
Who says change has to be difficult? This may have been a belief you’ve had until now, but guess what?
You can choose to change quickly if you want to. You can decide to change easily or not.
You have the choice.
When you are truly ready to change it can happen quickly and easily.
2) There are no problems…only challenges that need solutions.
Constantly remind yourself of this, you’ll be amazed how much easier life becomes. When you look at it like this then it immediately puts you into a more positive state?
Isn’t it amazing and how lucky we are, that our mind has the solution to any challenge that may present itself to you?
3) You are in charge of your mind and therefore your results.
Decide what you want and DO SOMETHING, even if it’s just a small thing, towards getting what you want.
4) You have all the resources you need to bring about change and success.
Accept that it is up to you to bring about the change and success you want – no one else can do it for you. You can no longer blame others or life in general for what you don’t have.
Everyone has the potential to develop and grow.
“Everything I need is within me now”
Tony Robbins
So you can do anything you set your mind to.
Why not ….
Be healthy, Happy & Amazing!
Caroline x
ps. I’m having a laugh with my self.. this post started off as The 7 Steps For Permanent Weight Loss – and I’ve only just touched on number one.. Imagine how long you’d be sitting here if I covered the remaining 6! I can feel a webinair coming on..or a very long post series!
PPS So Yes there is a webinar happening go here now !
Love you to comment and tell me what action you’re going to take??