When your positive mindset has gone into hiding…

I work in mindset. I call myself Your Mindset Nutritionist and I’ll happily declare I love working with my clients. Together we achieve great results and one thing I do know, is after their intensive, they’re heads are overflowing with positive thoughts.

Then why oh why I ask myself, do I allow my mind sometimes to be overtaken by a barrage of negative thoughts?

I know crazy right?

Let me explain. I am as a rule a positive person. I believe I operate from a place where my glass is half full… most of the time! So what is it that can stop me (and maybe you) dead in my tracks and send me ten steps backwards, when I know the only way is forward?

I think know it is fear.

It may fear of change.

It may be fear of judgement.

It may be fear of disappointment.

It may be fear of failure.

It may be all of them plus more!

Any or all of the above can stop you (and I) in your tracks and keep you from moving forward, doing the thing you know you need to do!

Let’s look at fear of change for a moment.

I think most of us see change has being a hard slog, involving lots of work. Change provokes fear; as change more often than not takes us out of our comfort zone and into a new place of being. It’s in this new place where we experience and learn new things. This is a good thing. Who says change has to be hard? If we think it will be then it probably will, if we believe it will be easy then guess what? It can be. Continuing to learn and expand ourselves means we continue to grow.

 

Never stop learning BECAUSE life never stops teaching.

 

So let’s look at another fear…fear of judgment. What is it that you and I are worried about? Why do we care what other people think? I think all of us deep down ‘like’ to be ‘liked’… I don’t think I’d be overly happy if I knew people thought badly of me.

But as I wrote that last sentence I know that I actually can do nothing about what they think!

Guess what I say to my clients? What other people think of you is none of your business. You and I cannot change the way they think, we can only change how we deal with it. We can not control the stuff that happens outside of us, but we can control how it affects us.

 

We can choose to let things affect us, and we can choose not to. It’s OUR choice.

 

So when those negative thoughts begin to dominate that beautiful headspace of yours (and mine) take some time out. Give yourself some space. Breathe deeply and often.

Ask yourself what is it that you really think? Is that negative thought actually true or is it based on some long held belief? Is there an emotion attached to it and if so what identify that emotion is?

That emotion is a signal from your subconscious that it’s time to act. To change, move forward, to learn, to grow. We repeat what we don’t repair.

 

 You and I, are in charge of our minds and therefore our results.

 

This post has in fact, I now realise,  been my little pep talk – me talking to me – telling me a few things I needed to hear right now. Let the fear go, it’s all in my head, take a deep breath, and another and it’s time to move forward… period.

I hope you’ve enjoyed (and perhaps recognised a bit of you), being inside my head for this little tete a tete!

So I know what I’m doing. Now you need to decide what you want and DO SOMETHING. Even if it’s just a small thing, towards getting it.

If you’d like to do something right now, why not start with learning how to eat mindfully? Research has shown if this is the only thing you change..you can lose weight. Click here to download.

 

Be Healthy, Happy & Amazing!

Cos you and I deserve to be…

Caroline xx